This is part 2 of my current series where I am taking a closer look at each of the attributes outlined two weeks ago that make up an ideal team player: humble, hungry and smart. Last week we took a deeper dive into “humble” and how to spot that quality in our company.
- The second virtue or quality to discuss is hungry. Hungry tends to be one of the easier qualities to spot in our current team members. Do they show up on time or a little early for their shift? Are they dependable and hardy ever call out? When you call them in to cover a shift or ask them to stay late, do they say yes? When they are working are they always in their station or are they wandering in the back, getting a drink or hanging out in the office? Do they help others and jump in before someone else asks them to do so? Have they gone through our certification process and are always pushing to learn more?
- One quality I see in people that are hungry that may not be obvious is that they are willing to do the little things needed every shift to succeed. They follow procedures and do things how they are supposed to be done, they don’t take shortcuts or say that something is good enough. Doing it the right way actually drives this type of person to keep doing more.
- Can you feel and see the passion or vision in someone? If someone is hungry, they will have a fire and passion that you can feel and hear when you talk to them. Tony Robbins credited the poem “The Will To Win,” in shaping his hunger and drive at an early age. The one interesting thing I have come to learn about hungry is that it seems almost impossible to teach. It seems that the hunger gene is learned in each of us at a very young age. One of my biggest disappointments as a leader is when I see unlimited potential in someone but knowing that without the hunger, they may never be able to reach their potential.
- As mentioned before, a person needs to have all three of these qualities to really succeed long term. Someone who is only hungry without being humble or smart is simply a bull in a china shop. People that only have hunger often lack a vision or long term purpose that keeps them charging in the right direction. The book Rhinoceros Success is one of the few books out there than can potentially help bring out the hunger in someone.
- Being hungry means that a person is willing to make a sacrifice to achieve something. When interviewing try to spot a time of real, yet joyful sacrifice. They shouldn’t be resentful for what they had to do to achieve it, they should be proud and grateful for the experience. One of the words that bothers me in an interview is when someone starts talking about balance. To me the work life balance myth was created by people that were left unfulfilled with their career choice. I look at my life and realize that there are seasons of your life when more energy goes into certain areas. What you are working to achieve should be part of your life and part of who you are. Back to the Tony Robbins poem, having a real hunger consumes you.
- At Culver’s we have a process called the mentor program where a manager can work their way all the up to becoming a part owner of a restaurant. I am consistently amazed how few of our team members will even ask me about the path or the process. Many current Culver’s owners have gone from team member to manager to mentee to partner and then even onto being a mentor themselves. For someone with all three of these qualities Culver’s is living proof that the American Dream is alive and well.
I wanted to take the outline from last week and go a little deeper. I am planning a three part series to take a closer look at each of the attributes outlined last week that make up an ideal team player: humble, hungry and smart. As outlined last week we should be on the look out for people that have all three of these qualities when it comes to new hires as well as those we are considering for promotions. My goal is to look at these qualities in the lens of our stores and our daily activities.
- The first virtue or quality I want to look at is humble. What does humble look like at Culver’s?
- Our number one core value at the scoops group is to Serve. The two key points to this are to create loyal, raving fans and to put others first. As I have mentioned in the past, a loyal, raving fan should include our team members as well. Humble people serve others. Humble people put the results of others and the common good before themselves. One of our scoops beliefs is that our guest is anyone who is not me. How do you treat the people that are below you in the company? The people that are humble treat everyone the same. The people you need to watch out for in an organization are those the “kiss up” to those above them and then “kick down” to those beneath them in the company. The saying “It’s not my job,” should never be spoken at Culver’s. If we have a team member that says that, we need to call them out immediately. As managers and leaders we also need to remember that there are times where we will need to work “shoulder to shoulder” with our team and perform any task that is required. One thing that sets the great companies apart from the good ones are the details. Humble people consistently do the little things needed to make that difference.
- Humble people are givers, not takers. Humble people are grateful, not hateful. Humble people share the credit for a job well done and praise others. Humble people are also accountable and most of the time even take more than their fair share of the blame. Humble people act this way because they are confident. Don’t mistake humble for weak. Humble is anything but weak. True strength in humbleness is knowing a strength that you have and not flexing it. People that are weak will often times pretend to be strong and try to flex a strength that they don’t really possess. Along these lines is the thought that humble people are kind. The real power of kindness is hard to measure and in certain situations unstoppable. Humble people may not always feel kindness in their heart but they act kind anyways. How times during any given day can we choose to be kind instead of an alternative reaction.
- How to identify humble?
- 1. Compliment or praise others on the team.
- 2. They readily can admit their mistakes and be accountable.
- 3. They share the credit for a job well done.
- 4. They can acknowledge their weaknesses.
- 5. They help others and take on lower jobs at times.
- 6. They “know” others on the team, they know about the person and treat everyone the same.
- 7. They use “we” more than “I” when they talk.
- 8. They are interested in the success of others on the team. They are a cheerleader.
- 9. They are positive and kind even when they may not feel it.
- 10. They put others before themselves.
- Challenge for the week. Rate those people on you team based on the above 10 items as to how humble each on is. Next week we will explore “hungry” in greater detail.
I thought I would start out today’s post with a flawed title right from the start. Everyone always wants to hire, train and retain the perfect team member. Over the past month I have started to shift my focus from perfection to optimal. I think that always expecting perfection is one of my down falls as a leader. It is good to have high standards and look for all of our systems and procedures to be followed but expecting it to be perfect all of the time only leads to frustration. Given the situation I have been refocusing to look at what is the optimal outcome. Given the team member and the situation what could the best result be? Keeping in mind that, we also need to teach and coach team members how to reach the next stage of “optimal” along the way. The same situation will have different outcomes based on which team member is involved. We should know what ideal is and then see how close optimal can get us.
- The first step in having great team members is to hire better. The one simple hiring tip that has helped me tremendously over the past year has been learning about confirmation bias. If we go into an interview hoping to hire someone or hoping they will be a good fit, our mind will pick out any little comment and tell us that would make them a good fit for our team. You have to go into each interview with the mindset that you do not want to hire someone. This will train your mind to pick up on subtle clues that will put up a red flag and give you a reason why not to hire someone. As always, if it isn’t a hell yes, then it should be a no.
- Be it the interview process or even current team members looking to move forward in our company, there are 3 keys qualities that are outlined in the book “The Ideal Team Player” written by Patrick Lencioni that I think are key to creating a great team culture.
- #1: Hungry. Hungry is a quality that cannot be taught. People either have it or they don’t. When you talk to someone, you should be able to see the fire in their eyes and their desire to achieve something. How many times have we said that someone could be a great team member if they could only have the drive to achieve at a high level every day. We keep waiting for them to “grow up” or “take it seriously” but they never do. I know that I have spent a lot time and effort over the years hoping that something would click in certain people but over and over again, it just doesn’t. Hungry people can act without being asked.
- #2: Humble. Humble is more about putting others first. When they work are they helping others out and always looking for a way to jump in and help. Humble people are not above doing the little things needed to get the job done. Humble people never say, “it isn’t my job.” Humble does not mean weak; humble people are still confident and direct. Humble people can coach others without causing a feeling of resentment or an “I told you so” attitude. A humble people is willing to be accountable and ask others for feedback to get better.
- #3: Smart. Smart does not refer to book smart, it refers to people smart. In business this is also known as someone’s EQ or emotional intelligence. Smart refers to how well they get along with others. Does this person have conflict with others or can they work in any situation? You don’t have to get along with everyone that you work with, but you must be able to unite for the common goal / mission to get the job done. Smart people are able to get the best out of other team members.
- The author talks about how the Ideal Team Player should have all 3 of these qualities. His belief is that the only one that we can teach or develop is humble. If you find someone with the other two qualities, you can usually help them become more humble with one on one coaching in certain situations. For myself this has been an area of focus over the past year. One of my big weaknesses is that I have a tendency to cut others off and not let them finish their thoughts. I have tried to become more conscious of this and taking even 1 step further I have been trying to make a point of asking a follow up question to help validate the other person’s statement as well.
- As I was listening to an interview with Dave Ramsey the other day, he said that you shouldn’t have anyone working on your team that you wouldn’t hire again. He said that the first time he heard this quote he went and let someone go the very next day. He didn’t even have an exact reason but he knew that he wouldn’t rehire that team member. Not saying that we should all go and let our team members go tomorrow but we should be on the look out for people that we know are not a good fit. We need to spend some extra time coaching these team members and making our expectations clear. If we can repeatedly make our expectations clear eventually someone will either get better or leave as they get tired of being told the same thing over and over again.
- This is another good opportunity for a life raft exercise. List every team member and manager and rate them in the above three areas: hungry, humble and smart. Where do they land? Have you identified someone that we need to coach up or have we found a diamond in the rough that has a ton of potential? This is a very interesting lens through which we can view both our team and ourselves.
As we are talking about leadership over the past few weeks, I thought I should share what I feel are my top 10 leadership qualities that I look for in people as they move up in our organization.
- 1. You are always learning or teaching, every day! One of the most important duties of every leader in the building is to always be learning or teaching. It is a good habit if you journal to write down 1 thing that you either learned or taught someone today.
- 2. Building others up. The goal for you to move up is to build your replacement. Whenever someone asks me how they move up in our organization, the first thing we tell them is to build their replacement. Take the time and help someone else achieve their goals at the same time.
- 3. Not making excuses and blaming everyone else, be accountable. I like to tell everyone that our company coat of arms should NOT point at each other. One leadership trait that sets great leaders apart is that they take responsibility for failure to achieve the desired results. The other part to this is when you point out a problem make sure you offer a solution.
- 4. Working up, not down. This is one of the things that frustrates me the most, when I see our top leaders working down during the day. It is great to work side by side with the team but we need to make sure that we are not enabling others to work less. Whenever I consider someone for a promotion I ask myself if I find myself and others working down in their company or if they are working up towards us in their current position. We have to avoid letting other people set our agenda, we need to be intentional with our time. We need to teach others how to treat us. We have set clear expectations at every level. If you feel like you have to be superman or superwoman every time you are at work you are not delegating well enough.
- 5. Be grateful, not hateful. Say “Get To” not “Have To”. These are 2 statements that I have talked about in previous blogs but I feel are one of the keys to success. Every morning when I wake up I write in my journal one thing that I am grateful for in my life. It helps you get your mind right. At the end of the night I write down in my journal the people that I praised or thanked throughout the day.
- 6. Don’t have a self limiting mindset. What we feed our mind is what we tend to believe. What we start to believe leads towards the actions that we take. Never let others tell you what is possible or not. Have a vision and develop a path to get there.
- 7. Pay attention to the details, have a 360 degree view. Achieving results are a large part of your success in our organization. The details and having a 360 degree view is the best way to meet our financial benchmarks. Paying attention to the little things every day is what turns a good company into a great company.
- 8. If you see it, say it. This is along the same lines as coaching everyday but this goes one step further to include feedback as well. It is important for us say what we see many times during the day. This goes for the good as well as the opportunities. If you want a behavior repeated, the best way is to mention that behavior out loud. When coaching something that is incorrect, coach it and tell the person how it should be done, not what they did wrong.
- 9. Serve others and build relationships. Being a part of Culver’s means that you will need to be able to connect with others. Take every chance you get to interact with either a guest or a team member and work on building that relationship and creating loyal, raving fans. Take any extra time you may have and start a conversation with someone.
- 10. OTED. Choose “One Thing Every Day” to do you move yourself forward both personally and professionally. The best person to compare yourself to is yourself yesterday. If you are better today than you were yesterday, you win. I write down one item every day that I will do no matter what to be better in both of those areas of my life.
- I feel that following these 10 steps of leadership will help us reach our goal that everyone who chooses Culver’s leaves happy! I believe that the above 10 items help us walk the thin line between leader and manager to produce leadership. One last bonus tip, if you can give 100% when it doesn’t matter, you will automatically give 100% when it does.
- Please share a leadership attribute that you feel is key to success.
The other day was mother’s day and as I was doing my three minutes of gratitude in the morning I was reminded how lucky I was to have a loving childhood with both a mother and father that were a great role model to me. As I now have children of my own, I find myself trying to live up to their great examples. I try to be a real model everyday and live out my life how I want my children to live out their lives as they grow older and have children.
- As we work with so many young people in the restaurant we need to remember that all of our team members and fellow managers come from a unique background and childhood. We talk about creating a relationship with our guests and team members and sometimes we may forget that this may be the most stable relationship that some of them may have. We spend more waking hours with our coworkers at times than we do with our families. This is why it is so important that we treat each other as a family and that we are there to help and listen to each other when problems arise. Here are some simple tactics that can help us become better role models / real models as authority figures for our team members.
- 1. See the personal side. We need to treat team members as people and remember that they all have a personal side. Get to know little things about each other. One of the best ways to learn something about someone is the ask the 2nd question. After you ask the initial question and hear the answer, ask a second question that digs a little deeper.
- 2. Listen. It is often said the listening is one of the greatest strengths that leaders need to possess. Asking that second question is also a great way to let others know that you are listening. Listening is also a way we can comfort team members if they are having a tough time outside of work. Sometimes it helps just having someone listen.
- 3. Constant Feedback. Feedback both positive and constructive is important so team members know how they are doing and what you are looking for. Try to remember the 5/1 ratio. For every 1 time we coach someone or give constructive feedback we need to give that person positive feedback 5 times to maintain a healthy balance.
- 4. Brag in front of others. One of the best ways to build a great relationship with others is to give them positive feedback and brag on them a bit in front of others. It not only make the team member feel good, it lets others know what excellent performance looks like.
- 5. Accept each others differences. Don’t judge others. Just because someone may be different doesn’t give any of us the right to judge others or put them down. At the end of the day people may forget what you do and forget what you say but they always remember how you make them feel.
- One last thing to remember about managing others is that it really boils down to influence more so than governing. We can govern when it may come to policies and rules but when it comes to winning the hearts and minds of our team members it comes back to influence.
Here is a link to a blog post by Jon Morrow. I encourage everyone to click on the link to read this article. Hard to have any excuses after reading his post.
- I love the way he talks about acceptance and dealing with reality. It really points back to the idea that people that focus on the past are often depressed and feel that life is unfair. People that focus on the future often face anxiety and think too much about what may happen. The real win comes in the messy middle. The “now” part of your life where you need to grind your way through to success.
- Another great point he talks about is the concept regarding the concept of “the punch, counter punch.” Everyone is going to get hit or take a punch, this is often the time where your opponent is left wide open for a knock out. You need to change your mindset from hateful to grateful and find a way you can counter punch the situation to your advantage. As he says, when turning lemons into lemonade, you can’t be mad at the lemons.
- I also really like how he talks about embracing the crazy. The goal in life shouldn’t be to be normal. When you fall into the rut of society, you lose your voice. Find your real purpose in life and set some wild and crazy goals to get there. He also talked in an interview about going from a survival mode to living a life of real contribution. Everyone has their own unique story, what is yours?
- Finally he reminds us all to never, ever give up. He comments that some of the greatest victories are made by the weakest people who overcome challenges that most others would cower down at. The number one reason for failure is that people give up and quit too soon. 90% of those that fail in life fail because they gave up too soon.
A few weeks ago we talked about having the “it” factor and ways that you can help improve your charisma and level of connection with others. We learned that charisma is not a mythological quality, it can be learned and improved. The other day I came across an article that talked about reasons why we fall short of connecting with others. I thought I would use this as a base for a post today. Below are 5 common road blocks that prevent us from connecting or building great relationships with others.
- Reason #1: Pride. For the most part people do not want to follow or be around someone that feels that they are better than everyone else. Are you able to accept when you are wrong at times? Do you have so much pride that you are always right and put others down along the way? I think that pride also points to someone that thinks they know it all. Someone that is afraid to ask for help or even look at another point of view. Pride is one of the most common road blocks for people achieving much success.
- Reason #2: Insecurity. How do you view yourself? If you are insecure about yourself, chances are that others will be as well. Again people tend to shy away from relationships where they do not feel better about themselves. By being strong and secure you can actually help others feel that way about themselves. Don’t let self doubt creep in.
- Reason #3: Moodiness. Are you consistent? Do people know what they are going to get when you are in the room? The worst thing you can do is to be all over the place with how you feel and act. People want to know what to expect, if it is too up and down they will begin to expect too much down. It adds another level of stress to the situation if people are afraid of how you will react. They will be less likely to confide in you if they cannot predict that you will listen to them and support them if needed.
- Reason #4: Perfectionism. I think this is one of my biggest weaknesses. People can respect the high standards and the pursuit of excellence but do not like the feeling of never being good enough. I always talk about continually raising the bar but I also need to make sure that the expectations are reasonable and attainable. Small wins are the best way to build momentum. Momentum is one of the best traits an organization can have to win long term. Perfectionism stands in the way of building this momentum.
- Reason #5: Cynicism. This is probably the one that irritates me the most. I cannot stand someone who always sees the negative in a situation. Someone that always tells me why something can’t or won’t work. People that are positive do not want to stifled by someone that always wants to rain on their parade. One of my favorite quotes from Henry Ford is “whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.” The more people fill their head and the heads of others with reasons we will fail, the chances of failure increase exponentially. It is ok to be a realist and voice an objection but this cannot be your answer for every suggestion.
- The bottom line is that we all need to be self aware. Our ability to grow and achieve more is based on our ability to be self aware of our strengths and our weaknesses. Here is the challenge for this week. Which one of these areas is holding you back from achieving and connecting at a higher level? Chances are others will see these qualities in us long before we notice them ourselves. Ask people close to you to be honest and tell you which one area you should focus on over the next 6 months to help make better connections. As you look at improving those qualities about yourself remember to strive for being humble, secure, positive, consistent and hungry.
This debate may not be as age old as whether the chicken or the egg came first but in our current environment this is a well debated topic. What is more important, to have a leader or a manager? Even I have made a point over the past year of referring to our management teams as leadership teams. In most of my blog posts I have always tried to use the term leader vs. manager. We have even renamed our General Manager title in our restaurants to Director of Happiness. It has struck me over the past few months that both sides of the argument are equally important.
- A leader’s main focus is on the people whereas a manager’s main focus is on the results. In a recent Forbes article that surveyed 60,000 workers the findings were amazing. The article stated that people that focused primary on the people were only viewed as great by their workers 12% of the time. People that focused primarily on results were viewed as great only 14% of the time. People that focus solely on results tend to lose the enthusiasm of their team. People that focus solely on the people have happy, excited team members that may not be going in the right direction or paying attention to the details.
- The real answer to the debate is “Leadership”. You can call yourself a manager or you can call yourself a leader, but to be truly successful you need to be able to focus on both people and results. The study found that less than 1% of leaders / managers studied were able to focus on both people and results. Those 1% were viewed as great by the workers 72% of the time. To me this is one of the keys to successful employee engagement which we touched on a few weeks back and how it is at an all time low. By focusing on both the people and the results, you are able to motivate and engage the team but still keep everyone on the correct path and paying attention to the details. Leadership is a choice, management is a position.
- As we strive to always create loyal, raving fans as well as loyal, raving team members we need to remember what makes a great experience. It takes a great, people-focused interaction to create the relationship and it takes a detail orientated, consistent interaction to keep the relationship positive. We all need to be great leaders and great managers every day to keep moving ourselves and our business forward. One good thing is that we can teach most good leaders to become good managers by having great operating systems in place. Are you a leader, a manager or a combination of both?
It is an exciting day today! Jon Gordon’s new book “The Power of Positive Leadership” is officially launching today! Happy Book Birthday. I encourage anyone in a leadership role to pick up a copy. The only warning is that you may need a new highlighter by the end of the book for all of the great quotes and tips that Jon shares about being positive. Great tips for work, life and family as well. I hope everyone has a great week!