I was listening to an interview with Rob Lowe the host of “The Giving Back Podcast” the other day and he threw a quote out there that almost made me drive off the road. I don’t know why I found it so profound but it really inspired me to share it with others.
- “There is a space between stimulus and response and in that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Victor Frankle
- This quote should remind all of us the we all have the power and choice to choose how we respond in any situation. We all need to take ownership of our choice and hopefully with practice and self reflection we can start to choose better responses. I am always amazed when I hear stories about people like Oprah who have overcome so much hardship and turmoil to end up becoming such an amazing person. It really shows how some people can use that response time to really grow and find their freedom. It seems like the people that simply complain all the time about the situation they are in, will remain in that situation simply by their own choice of response. If someone continues to blame others and make excuses, they will not grow and eventually find their freedom. The power of response is the way that anyone can grow beyond the limitations of their own background. The largest amount of growth usually happens when we step outside of our comfort zone.
- We all have the power and ability to do great things if we give ourselves the chance to respond to situations in a certain way. This goes back to being grateful vs. hateful. If you are grateful, you can look at almost any situation as an opportunity to improve. When you are hateful, you start to assign blame and make excuses. If you focus on helping others vs. helping only yourself in that response you can also find more meaningful results.
- At the end of the day you are the person that is ultimately responsible for yourself and your actions. Your actions come from the space between the stimulus and the response. In difficult situations I always remind people that we all carry around 2 buckets. One bucket has water and one bucket contains gasoline. We have the power in our response to choose which bucket we put on the fire.
- As leaders it is our responsibility to choose the right response to various situations throughout the day. In our response, we allow others the opportunity to then be able to choose their own response to the situation that we have created. People have an opportunity to choose a much better response if we are thoughtful and intentional about setting the right stage from the start. If we choose a poor response it is much more difficult for others to make a choice that can overcome your initial poor response.